Here’s a good one. I know we do it all the time to each other. I’ll start thinking Charles can read my mind. I mean he should be able to by now. We’ve been together for alost 8 years, and married for 5.5 of them. I should be able to read his mind by now too, right? WRONG!
I know for us whenever we hit a rough patch, and I look back, there was a breakdown in communication.
I think we assume that since we do know each other so well, we should know what the other is thinking a lot of the time.
I know there have been times where something will frustrate me, and I won’t say anything. It keep bubbling up inside and I’m thinking he is supposed to know how irritated I am by now.
Or I’m huffing and puffing, he asks me what’s wrong and I say nothing, when it really is something.
Sometimes I’m thinking I don’t want to bother him with my petty problems or my big problems. I know he has his own stuff to deal with, so I keep silent, but then get mad because he hasn’t helped me.
Well, he can’t help me because I told him nothing was wrong, and then expected him to fix it by reading my mind.
He has done the same thing to me.
I don’t know how it happens, but we end up in this communication breakdown once in a while.
The good thing is that we’re able to get back on track.
When we have serious discussions, he’ll repeat back to me what he heard from me, and I’ll do the same for him.
Sometimes it’s funny because we’re like how did you get an orange from an apple?
It’s really helped. Men and women are so different, and we aren’t mind readers.
We have found this exercise to work for us. If we misunderstand each other, then the person will try to word it different way, or say no that’s not what I meant. There are also times when we get the other 100%
I notice our marriage seems to flow better and not seem like so much work when we both keep the lines of communication open.
That was my thought on marriage today. I hope everyone has a great week!
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