>I watched the show with Charles last night. We enjoyed it. He said he wants to watch it again. I’m glad I recorded it.
They talked about Unschooling, Attachment Parenting, and Gender Neutral Parenting.
I liked seeing a young family who unschools their kids. My husband made the comment that “we aren’t that radical” I agree. Unschooling looks different in every family. I also don’t think that unschooling means you drop everything you’ve ever done all at once. You take your time, and move on to the next step when you and your family are ready. That’s what we do.
Charles said while we were watching it last night, that this is not for everyone. He is correct. I believe you have to find what works for your family, and be informed to make the best decision.
The experts kept saying “you have to make sure your children are prepared for real life situations” They are living real life, how can you not learn about life when your already living it? I see my children learning every day. We learn in everything we do.
I would have loved to see different unschooling families at different ages, and stages. Going from child to adult. Maybe one day they will do it, and they won’t have experts who aren’t even living the lifestyle to tell us the pros and cons.
The featured family for unschooling. Humans Being
The Attachment Parenting family talked about using elimination communication. That is learning your babies signs for when they have to use the potty. I have friends who use this method, and I find it interesting. She held meetings on EC at her house.
I loved seeing women breastfeeding their babies on TV. I actually can’t remember the last time I saw someone breastfeeding their child on TV.
Another thing they did that I found interesting, they planted their kids placenta’s. The placenta nourishes the baby in the womb, and they used it to nourish a new tree they were planting.
They also talked about babywearing, and co-sleeping. Of course the “expert” said that if you wear your child too much they won’t be able to explore the world around them. Those were not her exact words, but pretty close to it. I don’t know anyone who wears their child 24/7
I think our babies learn so much about the world when they are being worn. They are at our eye level, and can see the world from our view. I wore Ava a lot when she was an infant, and continued to wear her until she was two years old. I wore her until she didn’t want to as she called it get up anymore.
She learned to walk and crawl like every other child out there, in her own time, when she was ready.
This same expert also said that co-sleeping is becoming more wide spread. She forgot to mention that it’s becoming widespread in the USA, everyone else has been doing it for years. That’s just how they live. They keep their children close, and are very attentive to them.
The expert went on to say that you should use a bed side co-sleeper, because there have been cases of infants being smothered with a pillow or blanket. Again, she forgot to mention that you must be sober, and not taking Nyquil with Tylenol PM if your going to co-sleep.
We have never once rolled over on our kids.Everyone I know that co-sleeps does so in a safe manner.
Once again the expert had to weigh in on the demands of AP. She said it can be exhausting for the parents, and some take it to the extreme. We never found out what she meant by the extreme.
AP is not exhausting for me. Letting my child cry it out for hours at night in the dark would be exhausting for me.
Not being in tune with my child, and being able to pick up on their signals would be exhausting for me.
Charles said he could relate to the husband during the AP segment. He too was a little wary of some of the ideas I wanted to try. Once he tried it, he liked it.
The last segment talked about Gender Neutral Parenting. They have two boys and there is no woman’s work, or man’s work. Their boys cook with mom, and the dad was doing laundry. There were no girls toys, and no boys toys. Their son asked for a doll house, and he got it.
Nakiah has recently asked for a tool bench, and we’re going to get one for her. I don’t see anything wrong with letting our kids play with what would be considered girl, or boy toys. My girls love to play with Barbie, and dolls, and play dress up. They also love to play with dirt, mud, trucks, and action hero’s.
I’m never going to tell them they can’t do something, or have something because it’s only for boys.
Even though I stay home, they know that some moms go to work, and some dads stay home, they know that sometimes mom and dad both work.
Once again the expert chimed in with her stellar opinion. She said something like children being raised in a gender neutral environment need to be prepared for how uncomfortable other people might be. She says that society is not gender neutral. I found that statement laughable! No mater what we choose to do or not do, someone in society is going to be uncomfortable. We can’t go around living our lives based on what someone else might think, or how it might make them feel.
One of their boys was playing with the breast pump, and holding his baby doll to nurse it. Charles said “I don’t agree with that” I asked him why not, and he said it just wasn’t right. My thought was that maybe when he is married he will be able to support his wife in breastfeeding, because it was always so natural for him growing up. Then husband says “well that makes since”
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I’m no expert on anything but my own kids, but those are my thoughts on the show last night. I am sad it was sensational, and not more informative. What can you expect though, they wanted to make good TV. The experts seemed to be much harder on the unschooling, and attachment parenting families. I wonder if either of them even have kids?
If you saw the special, what did you think?
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