>Guest Post Friday: His Thoughts On Birth

>My husband Charles is my guest post for today.
He is sharing some of his thoughts on the births of our children.
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Before I met my wife I had opinions on home birth and natural parenting.
I always thought it was for “all natural people” that lived in some foreign country in a village in India or Africa where that type thing has been going on for generations.

I have always liked the idea of a water birth. In a hospital with a Doctor and medical staff.

We had planned for a natural birth with our first child, but we were not as informed as we were with our second.
With our first child we did the whole hospital thing.
Darcel was induced and went 20 hours on the pitocin before asking for the epidural.
The baby was born, taken away and put in the nursery, but that is all we knew back then.

After the subject of homebirth was brought up for our 2nd baby, I was not a fan…at all.
She brought home books and used the web for reference.
I came around after we talked to a few Midwives, and I became more educated about home birth..
As the time came for my daughter to be born I was still a little skeptical but we had a lot of great people, like our midwife and doula that where there for support.

My 2nd Daughter was born in the hallway in our Cleveland apartment.
Not what I thought home birth would be. It was great, just have a kid wherever is comfortable and start bonding without the florescent lights, people all over the place and the baby getting probed and scopped as soon as she is born. Let the baby breathe!

After that I was on board fully and I did not want our future children born in the hospital.
When we moved to Virginia and we found out she was preggo again I could not wait to have the baby.
I could not wait to be that much more involved again.

Through the home birth experience I have a NEW respect for my wife. 
The Pain she must feel going through the whole process.
No Offense to any other woman out there, but for a woman to go through birth with out any thing numbing her up is AMAZING!!!

With our son We where able to do the LONG awaited waterbirth in our dining room of all places. It was Like a dream come true. It was my FIRST son and he was born how I pictured.

I think Modern tech has made childbirth more of a business  than an experience for man, woman and child as it should be. 

The differences between our hospital birth and our homebirths were like night and day.
With our first child the doctor induced my wife, and the experience was very impersonal.
It seemed like she was just another baby being born during a shift.
The biggest difference for me between hospital and home, is that the births at home were natural.
Nobody telling us what to do, and when to do it, or how.

If a woman experiences homebirth just ONCE she will never want to do it any other way.

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12 thoughts on “>Guest Post Friday: His Thoughts On Birth

  1. >WOW! i am ecstatic that there are brothers and sisters out here for real having home, water births. i thought me and my guy were the only nutbuckets out here doing such a thing! 🙂 We have experienced 2 home births, one of them being a water birth. i have been told from my guy that the feeling of catching HIS child with HIS hands was immeasurable. Kudos to the both of you! Keep doing it!

  2. >So wonderful to finally meet you in blogland, Charles. I so admire you, your wife and beautiful family. You are an example for many and I appreciate your presence.one love.

  3. >I love photos of women during labor and right after baby is born. I also love mama and baby photos, maternity photos.It would be nice to have some photos with our next baby.I'm so lucky that he's supportive and almost like an advocate for natural birth, homebirth even!.

  4. >Love this post and I agree so very strongly with his last sentence. That's why I am so passionate about wanting to photograph natural births, especially ones that take place in the home. It's time to re-educate ourselves about pregnancy and birth and stop treating it like a disease!

  5. >Great Daddy perspective! I've attended three homebirths so far (including one at my own house last weekend) and they are so completely different from hospital births.

  6. >WOW! i am ecstatic that there are brothers and sisters out here for real having home, water births. i thought me and my guy were the only nutbuckets out here doing such a thing! 🙂 We have experienced 2 home births, one of them being a water birth. i have been told from my guy that the feeling of catching HIS child with HIS hands was immeasurable. Kudos to the both of you! Keep doing it!

  7. >It's always great to hear a man's thoughts – especially when said man is fully supportive of his wife! I'm really hoping mine will come around to trusting home birth for our next child – I'll have to send him here!

  8. >So wonderful to finally meet you in blogland, Charles. I so admire you, your wife and beautiful family. You are an example for many and I appreciate your presence.one love.

  9. >Charles, I was involved in some way with the birth of all three of my grandchildren. First time I get a chance to "see" them from you're eyes. I like you're point of view. It's a good read.

  10. >I like your husband style, just straight to the point. I need to have my DH write one about our birth. I like to read a man's view. It's personal but still from the outside. I love to hear DH talk about catching Audrey, with so much emotion and passion. You can see that Samuel's birth really touched your husband. I hope more men will open up and see the beauty in birth.

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