>Guest Post Friday: It’s Time To Give The Responsibility Back

>

I keep coming across posts written by different bloggers or articles like this one The Myth of The Bad Parent that have this constant ring to them of “there is no such thing as a bad parent.”

Really, really now.

Well maybe in the cupcake lala constant need-to-be politically correct neighborhoods these writers are coming from but where my husband and I come from, have been raised, and live in, I can most defintely point out some pretty bad parents that know and acknowledge that how they are living, or how their children are acting out is in direct correlation with their parenting skills but they care not enough to do one single dang thing about it to make a difference.

Instead they have become comfortable with the excuses being provided left and right by all. As they sit and continue on watching The Jersey Shore or Flavor Flav ((or whatever happens to be the latest show)) and (Tweeting, Facebooking, or Myspacing all about it). Because when standing in line in the grocery isle it’s their self-interest that comes first so instead of reaching towards Parenting Magazine they reach out to grab Cosmo or Ebony first to check out Rihannas or JLo’s New do.

“Wow, isn’t Momarchy a bit judgemental and on her high horse?!?” You say. No actually I’m not. I just happen to be upset at all the excuses and labeling that is going back and forth constantly by so many. The excuses that range from the financial limits to the lack of knowledge and resource. Okay just for post lengths sake, I’ll skip the first 2 points

but…

Limited RESOURCES??? What?!? We live in the US of A; all the resources are there for the taking with a single click. I mean hello if these parents have unlimited access to the internet via phones/library/home/McDonald’s to be posting images like this up on Myspace and Facebook of themselves.

Case and Point:

Subject#1


Subject#2

Subject #3


Subject#4

And yes they are all moms!

So we can tell by this that they have the basic knowledge of the web and can just as easily google, (How to help my child do better in school? How can I help my son/daughter with his behavior problem? and so forth) instead of spending hours and hours talking non-sense and posting pics of themselves showing their behinds.

Back in the day, okay I more than likely would have given the excuses because the most obvious of resources like our local libraries, community centers, and internet was not readily available in these areas where our Latino, Black, lower income white, and other minority communities were residing but that’s not the case any longer except in very very remote areas.

Hopefully this made sense to some; maybe it made sense to none. Either way I feel it’s something that is being to easily accepted and not spoken of. Rather its being given a constant excuse after excuse of a medical diagnostic labels or the constant need to dig deep to find something/someone/or an economic situation to blame, instead of giving some good ‘ole(((slap of reality, common sense and some hardcore parental education)))

It’s time to say enough with the excuses! And it’s time to give the responsibility back on over fully to the parent. Because the resources are there it’s all a matter of want and will to change and break the chain.


**Authors Bio**

Momarchy is a 25 yr old mother of 4 kids ranging from ages 9-3 (and nope there are no twins in the mix) She’s a punk-rock loving Christian Unschooler since 2007 and one hell of an awkward Military Wife to a 24 yr old geek-myster. That can be found blogging over at
The Unconventional Family about anything and everything relating to Familyhood and Life.

Advertisements

8 thoughts on “>Guest Post Friday: It’s Time To Give The Responsibility Back

  1. >Loved this! I completely agree…its time for parents to take responsibility and do just what they are supposed to do…parent. Don't make up excuses, you just have to do what for your children. Parents you are your child's biggest influence in life…at least thats the way it should be. As they get older they will have more outside influences of course, but their foundation starts at home.

  2. >Loved this! I completely agree…its time for parents to take responsibility and do just what they are supposed to do…parent. Don't make up excuses, you just have to do what for your children. Parents you are your child's biggest influence in life…at least thats the way it should be. As they get older they will have more outside influences of course, but their foundation starts at home.

  3. >Thank you for guest posting. It sure is time for parents to take responsibility for their actions.I think some try to put it off on the village. The village is here to be of support and assistance, not raise your child for you.

  4. >Thank You….Thank You so much ladies for your well thought out comments. I'm so glad to know there are other like-minded women that 'get' exactly what I'm saying, where I'm coming from, and understand the point that I was attempting to convey through this post. It seriously lets me know that my thinking is not way out there and that if political correctness were put to the side there are women that understand that excuses are not helping anyone but just creating a deeper hole for parents.(((And Darcel Thank You once again for givingme this opportunity to be one of your featured guests)))^_^

  5. >Thank you so much for this post because I have been trying to get other parents to see this point too. We as parents and society in general make too many excuses. People always want to blame the media for eating disorders, kids acting out in school, etc. Well, I don't believe that for one minute. Kids are products of their environment.And parents are responsible for shaping their children, not Chris Brown or Micheal Vick!! When you decide to do the do and get preggers or knock someone up then you agree automatically to take on the responsibilities that come with creating a life. You can't expect to sit kids in front of the tv for Jersey Shore and Flavor of Love to raise them.At the end of the day if you're not teaching your kids right from wrong, monitoring what they're doing/watching/listening to, trying to connect with them, providing them with the basics, etc. you are a bad parent. While there is no size fits all there are basic things that every parent should and is suppose to be doing. Let's clean up our acts and be the role models we're suppose to be for kids. The images we put out their are the ones our kids are most likely portray and take on as they get older. So, if you're walking around with all your butt cheek and boobs hanging out don't get mad when your daughter does the same.After all she learned it from you. Stop with the excuses and start making an effort to be a real parent. Time to throw out the 'Do as I say and not as I do' motto people.

  6. >WOW! I really felt the sincerity in this post. Great read and I agree and understand. I don’t have any children yet but this post will stick out in my head when they do come along.

Love Notes

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out / Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out / Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out / Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out / Change )

Connecting to %s