Go With The Flow Breastfeeding

I was getting ready to post this on Twitter, but figured I had too Much to say, so I’m making it a blog post.
It’s no secret that I’m a breastfeeding advocate, having nursed all three of my children for various lengths of time, plus all the breastfeeding pictures I’ve posted on the blog, the talking about it on other social media outlets.

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Milk drunk sleep

Quick back story: Kiah nursed for 10 months and also had formula along with breastmilk for the last five months. She weaned on her own. Ava nursed for 29 months and weaned herself when I was about six weeks pregnant with Samuel.
And Samuel is almost 29 months now. Any mom that has nursed a toddler will hopefully be honest with you and tell you that it is not always roses. Toddler acrobatics, tantrums when you ask them to hold on or say no. It’s still a sweet stage though, they are our babies. Coming up with names for nursing….Samuel calls it bites and thankfully he doesn’t bite me.

Since Samuel was about 22 months I’ve gone back and forth about weaning. There were times where he didn’t nurse at night only to nurse like crazy the next night. He still nurses to sleep most nights now, and there have been several times in the last 4-6 weeks where he asks to get up in the wrap and he’ll go to sleep like that. He sleeps for longer stretches during the night now, but asks for bites as soon as he wakes up and then wants to switch sides for a good hour. I’m not feeling that and haven’t been for a while. It annoys me. It’s not like he’s a newborn, or a year old….I’m like do you want something else to drink, are you hungry? I know he still gets nutrients from breastmilk and there is obviously still a connection and bonding going on at every nursing session.

We seem to be moving past the nursing for scrapes and boo boos, and I can’t tell you how many times a day he nurses. I know its more than five, or even ten some days! I don’t know if there is a specific formula for child-led weaning. Right now if he asks to nurse I will either nurse him or tell him not right now. He usually goes off to play and will come back either 10-30 minutes later and say “now mama?” Sometimes he’s really needing me or tired and I’ll nurse him right when he asks.

I’ve noticed that I don’t offer much anymore and I can’t really tell you when that started. Like I said before I’m a huge breastfeeding advocate, but I’m not doing child-led weaning(if that’s what you would call this)because I’m following a set of breastfeeding rules. I’m not night weaning because I can’t deal with the horrible screaming that comes out of this tiny boy. I’m doing what I’m doing because I’m lazy….and while I’m annoyed sometimes I still enjoy our breastfeeding relationship. I still enjoy the go with the flow of breastfeeding the majority of the time. I love snuggling with my baby boy throughout the day. I usually feel annoyed either first thing in the morning or late at night. Right now I just want to continue to relax into it because these kids are growing so fast. It won’t be long before he’s not in my lap anymore like his big sisters. One day I’m going to wish I could go back and have these moments. I don’t know how long it will continue and I’m not sure how I feel about nursing a 3yr old….I’ll cross that bridge when we get to it.

There you have it, I’m a lazy breastfeeder and instead of thinking in terms of when he will wean, should I wean him now or in the next few months, I’m going with the flow for a while longer. It fits us.

What about you? How and when did you wean your babes, or did you go with the flow?

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4 thoughts on “Go With The Flow Breastfeeding

  1. When I was pregnant I committed to breast feeding for 1yr then starting the wean, even though I really didn’t understand how the weaning worked. Well about a month ago when my little one turned 1 I asked the doc about weaning. He asked me a bunch of questions then said it sounds like the 2 of you (my LO and I) are not ready so just keep doing what you’re doing until you want a change. After a bit of reflection I realized that I only asked the weaning question because I was feeling a bit of pressure from friends and family but I’m completely happy with breastfeeding my 13montg old and he seems to be fine too. I would have to say I’m going with the flow for now especially now that he understands that biting is not a good idea.
    Thanks for this post. I love reading this blog.

  2. I love your post. My babies are long since weaned and grown up now but I remember breast feeding very fondly, My first two fed for 27 months each , not sure why they weaned at the same age just coincidence. My 3rd child fed until she was four and a half and I am sure would have carried on longer had I not fallen ill; feeding her to that age was just natural to me as it was the only way she would sleep ~ i guess it was the easiest option like you say better than the screams! Some people would make their disapproval known and others just ignored us I don’t think anyone I knew approved of it and thought I was weird . . . . . times have changed now I think and people are more tolerant/educated than they were.
    Enjoy it while you can our babies soon grow up and my eldest is now 22 how did that happen it seems like a blink ago 🙂 xx

    • Thanks for coming by and sharing a little of your breastfeeding journey with us. I’m going to keep practicing this ‘slowing down and enjoying’ thing until I get it right.

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