Over the last few months I’ve spent a lot of time focusing on what I don’t have, what I want, or think I need. For the month of November I’m focusing on all that I have in my life to be thankful for. You can join me by posting on your own blog or leaving a comment.
I’m thankful for 3rd, 4th, 5th and 6th plus chances. I can’t give you a number on the amount of chances I use up on a daily basis in the parenting department….probably the friendship department. Sometimes I feel like a crappy friend because I’m not able to give back the way people have given to me. I’ll get there one day.
You would think that Grace is easier to get than give, but I don’t find that to be true. Sometimes we mess up so badly, or are generally too hard on ourselves to wonder why anyone would give us another chance. But God loves us, our children love us, our parents and friends love us.
I find it hardest to extend Grace to myself, but I’m learning. I’m not as much of a perfectionist that I once was and having children has calmed me down in most areas. It’s always been hard for me to forgive myself for parenting mistakes….and there have been some doozies.
Nakiah came up to me out of the blue last night and said I want to tell you something….you’re the best mom and then she gave me the biggest hug. Moments like that are the ones I want to stay etched in our brains forever, not the mess ups.
Always learning from my kids.
I’m learning how to be a more grateful parent. Sometimes I slip back into the way that I was raised….children are manipulative and should be punished. Especially when my patience has run out. Those are the hardest moments to show Grace to my kids. I feel so much better about myself when I breathe first, and don’t get so frustrated at them for being kids and doing kid things. It makes our relationship better and stronger when I respond with Grace instead of disgust and anger. I’m sure this is true for all relationships, but it’s so much easier said than done sometimes.
I am very thankful for all the people in my life that have extended Grace to me over the years, and for showing me how to give the same when others need it. Understanding how Grace works, how to give and receive it is a continuous learning process.
What are you thankful for today?