I was getting ready to post this on Twitter, but figured I had too Much to say, so I’m making it a blog post.
It’s no secret that I’m a breastfeeding advocate, having nursed all three of my children for various lengths of time, plus all the breastfeeding pictures I’ve posted on the blog, the talking about it on other social media outlets.
Quick back story: Kiah nursed for 10 months and also had formula along with breastmilk for the last five months. She weaned on her own. Ava nursed for 29 months and weaned herself when I was about six weeks pregnant with Samuel.
And Samuel is almost 29 months now. Any mom that has nursed a toddler will hopefully be honest with you and tell you that it is not always roses. Toddler acrobatics, tantrums when you ask them to hold on or say no. It’s still a sweet stage though, they are our babies. Coming up with names for nursing….Samuel calls it bites and thankfully he doesn’t bite me.
Since Samuel was about 22 months I’ve gone back and forth about weaning. There were times where he didn’t nurse at night only to nurse like crazy the next night. He still nurses to sleep most nights now, and there have been several times in the last 4-6 weeks where he asks to get up in the wrap and he’ll go to sleep like that. He sleeps for longer stretches during the night now, but asks for bites as soon as he wakes up and then wants to switch sides for a good hour. I’m not feeling that and haven’t been for a while. It annoys me. It’s not like he’s a newborn, or a year old….I’m like do you want something else to drink, are you hungry? I know he still gets nutrients from breastmilk and there is obviously still a connection and bonding going on at every nursing session.
We seem to be moving past the nursing for scrapes and boo boos, and I can’t tell you how many times a day he nurses. I know its more than five, or even ten some days! I don’t know if there is a specific formula for child-led weaning. Right now if he asks to nurse I will either nurse him or tell him not right now. He usually goes off to play and will come back either 10-30 minutes later and say “now mama?” Sometimes he’s really needing me or tired and I’ll nurse him right when he asks.
I’ve noticed that I don’t offer much anymore and I can’t really tell you when that started. Like I said before I’m a huge breastfeeding advocate, but I’m not doing child-led weaning(if that’s what you would call this)because I’m following a set of breastfeeding rules. I’m not night weaning because I can’t deal with the horrible screaming that comes out of this tiny boy. I’m doing what I’m doing because I’m lazy….and while I’m annoyed sometimes I still enjoy our breastfeeding relationship. I still enjoy the go with the flow of breastfeeding the majority of the time. I love snuggling with my baby boy throughout the day. I usually feel annoyed either first thing in the morning or late at night. Right now I just want to continue to relax into it because these kids are growing so fast. It won’t be long before he’s not in my lap anymore like his big sisters. One day I’m going to wish I could go back and have these moments. I don’t know how long it will continue and I’m not sure how I feel about nursing a 3yr old….I’ll cross that bridge when we get to it.
There you have it, I’m a lazy breastfeeder and instead of thinking in terms of when he will wean, should I wean him now or in the next few months, I’m going with the flow for a while longer. It fits us.
What about you? How and when did you wean your babes, or did you go with the flow?